Services

Services

At the Center for the Connected Self, we specialize in helping early mid-lifers (and other growth focused individuals) to take their problems head on, so that they can break out of patterns of disconnection that would otherwise keep them from a better second half of life.

Some of the Issues I work with:

  • Trauma, abuse and related conditions, such as PTSD, Complex PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders
  • Midlife anxiety, stress, and self-examination
  • Birth Trauma and preparation for subsequent pregnancies
  • Divorce and relationship separation
  • Relational loss, dissatisfaction, and/or disconnection
  • Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
  • Men’s Issues
  • LGBTQ+
  • Depression and Anxiety
  • Health Issues – Sleep issues / Insomnia, Pain, Health issues related to trauma, Hot Flashes, Weight Loss

We provide a variety of services that are tailored to meet your individual situation and needs:

Individual Counseling

We can all reach a point in life where we begin to question the way that things are going. We evaluate our successes, as well as our challenges, and we begin to consider if we are on the right trajectory.

Sometimes, there is a long-standing issue that you may be avoiding, or perhaps it is something that you have been actively working on, but you feel like you are stuck in a cycle of “rinse-and-repeat.” Deep down you know that you can expect more of the same if you don’t get help, and you deserve more as you look forward to the future.

Providing this help is what my approach to individual counseling is all about.

Individual counseling (also known as individual therapy or psychotherapy) is a self-reflective process that takes place within the context of a supportive and nurturing relationship.  It involves us working together to identify and clarify the factors and patterns that have been standing in the way of the life that you desire for yourself. I will help you to process and heal any old wounds that have been consciously or unconsciously holding your back from growth in your relationships or personal life. It can also be a way to help you clarify a sense of purpose that can provide the second half of life with a greater sense of meaning.

Individual counseling involves a weekly investment of time to allow for a strong therapeutic relationship and a deeper exploration of often unconscious processes that underlie the surface level symptoms that you are experiencing. This investment doesn’t just help to clear up bothersome symptoms. It can provide deep and lasting change, as well as opening up new areas of potential growth and development.

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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)

What is EMDR?

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a type of therapy that is very helpful in improving how we relate to past unpleasant experiences by changing how our explicit and implicit memories of those experiences are coded in our body and nervous system.

In plain English this means that EMDR can help you to deeply heal from past unpleasant or traumatic events. This is the type of deep repair that can release the hold that the past has had on you in your every day life.

EMDR utilizes bilateral stimulation (BLS), which is visual, auditory or tactile stimulation that alternates from stimulating one side of the brain (through the body) and then the other.

The use BLS, when processing through unpleasant memories, feelings or sensations, has a way of bringing your body and mind’s natural healing capacities online. Your EMDR therapist will guide you through using BLS while visualizing things from the past, which will allow your inner healing ability to truly process and heal these old psychological wounds.

EMDR treatment can be an incremental process, though this process will be fully complete when you can remember an unpleasant past experience, without feeling all of “Yuck” that was once associated with it.

Due to its ability to change our present-day experience of unpleasant aspects of our past, EMDR can help us to heal from old wounds, big or small. EMDR has been validated as a treatment for “Big T” traumas, but it can also be very helpful in resolving “smaller t” traumas, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), and any past experience that brings up negative thoughts or feelings when you think about it.

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Resilience Training

Resilience Training is a broad term that I use to describe the teaching of techniques that you can employ at home to enhance your health and wellbeing. Though I incorporate this training into my individual therapy approach, I also provide shorter term training for those who are not yet ready or able to invest in deeper therapeutic work.

Below, I describe several types of Resilience Training that offer:

Relaxation / Mindfulness Training

Have you ever told yourself or been told to “just relax” or “calm down?” For most of us it is not that simple. While a chronically high level of stress is the norm for many, few of us have been taught how to manage stress effectively. The good news is that, through relaxation training, I can help you learn powerful stress managementskills, which can help to reduce your overall stress level and help you to become more stress resistant.

I have advanced training in a variety of relaxationand stress managementtechniques that can be customized to fit your individual needs and lifestyle. Relaxation training can have powerful effects by itself, or it can be used to enhance other forms of anxiety treatment. Here are a few of the many potential benefits of relaxation training:

  • Improved Sleep
  • Increased Energy Levels
  • Enhanced Concentration
  • Improvements in Mood
  • Improved Libido
  • Strengthened Immune System
  • Decreased Muscle Tension

emWave Coherence Training

One of the tools that I use during Resilience Training is the emWave Biofeedback system. Biofeedbackis a technique of using physiological monitors to provide you with real-time feedback about your body’s state of physiological arousal. This real-time heart rate monitoring helps you to get in tune with your body, and it allows you to witness the effect of stress management techniques that you use.

As a Certified HeartMath practitioner, I can help you to better understand how differences in your level of physiological arousal and stress reactivity are affecting you. By learning and practicing heart-based coherence techniques, I can help you to have the tools to adapt to stressful situations, while also working to help you to shift your baseline parasympathetic arousal levels. Through practice with the emWave, you will learn to achieve a state of psychophysiological coherence, which is a state of psychological and physiological harmony.

Self-Hypnosis Training

Self-Hypnosis is a form of hypnosis that you can use, on your own, to promote improved relaxation and to support other changes that you wish to make in your life.

Self-hypnosis training begins with a brief screening to ensure that you are a good candidate for hypnotic therapeutic work, as well as some education about self-hypnosis, the potential benefits of self-hypnosis, and the limits of what self-hypnosis can do.

Clients will then be introduced to trance experiences and basic self-hypnotic techniques, within the context of a traditional therapist-guided (aka hetero-hypnotic) trance.

As you develop a growing capacity to achieve deeper trance states, the emphasis will shift to self-directed hypnotic induction and other self-hypnosis techniques.

Some of my clients who have learned to use self-hypnosis describe it as one of the most empowering skills that they have learned.

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